Posted by: alqamardesigns | April 16, 2006

# 4 – Shirk in Love and Shirk in Fear

| By sisters Fatima and Qamar.

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Innal-Hamdalillah was-Salaatu was-Salaam `alaa Rasoolillah.

Asalaamu’alaykum waRahmatullahi waBarakaatuhu

Insha’Allah sister Fatima and myself sister Qamar, will be doing our group presentation on two forms of shirk.

We first need to know what Shirk is and to understand its seriousness, how can we possibly stay away from shirk if we do not know what it is?

In a Hadith Narrated by Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allaah (sa) said: ‘Shall I not tell you of the most serious of the major sins?’ he said this three times. We said, ‘Of course, O Messenger of Allaah!’ He replied, ‘Associating anything in worship with Allaah . . .’” [Hadith Bukhari].

To put someone or something equal to or above Allah is associating partners with Him which is shirk, and shirk can take many forms; it is not simply worshipping an idol as many think.

The greatest shirk of all is Shirk Al-Akbar – because Allah subhaanahu wa ta`ala will never forgive an individual if they do not repent from it before they die.

So Shirk is not to be taken lightly and we should all we well aware of the different forms that exist – in order to never commit such a terrible sin, a sin that will land us into the hell fire. A’ou thu billah

Our subject today will describe Shirk in Love and Shirk in Fear.

I will now pass you on to sister Fatima who will describe to you Shirk in Love…


Perhaps when we speak of shirk in love, the first thing that may come to mind is one’s love of his family more than they love Allah, his wealth more than Allah, the beauties of this world and perhaps one’s status in the dunya more than Allah. Indeed, if this is your idea of what shirk in love means, then you’re surly correct. Shirk in love is, committed not only against Allah, but against ourselves. For when we put others before Allah and allocate them the love that is deserve by only him, then surely we have truly wronged ourselves for He is in no need of our love, but we, as humans are in need of his love and mercy.

In order to protect ourselves, we must first understand that there are four types of love:



Having said this, perhaps some might say, “Well, I love Allah, I believe in him, and He’s always in my heart”. This is the first type of love mentioned.

Subhaanallah! Please pay head my fellow my Muslims. For surely, we may go astray, unless we truly understand what it means to claim love for Him. It is only by knowing what it means to love Him, that we can protect ourselves from this evil sin of loving our husbands, our children, our wealth, our status and the beauties of this world more than Allah.

Remember, (1) the people of the book claim love for Allah too, but what makes our love different to theirs is that as well as having love for Allah, (2) We love what Allah loves whatever we hate, we hate for the sake of Allah and whatever He loves, we love as well. For example, we know that Allah has made permissible the marrying of up to four wives for men. Although this might be very difficult to accept, yet, because it is something which Allah loves and has made permissible, then we accept and love it only for the sake of Allah.

(3) The third type of love is loving for the sake of Allah. All of us here today have been brought together by one common goal, to earn the love, pleasure and mercy of Allah, because of this, we love you for the sake of Allah.

“Whoever loves for Allah, hates for Allah, gives for Allah, and withholds for Allah, has sought the completion of his faith.” [Hadith Abu Dawood]

We can therefore see, that whatever good our hearts are inclined towards; it will be because of our love for Allah.

So, now, that we know what it means to have love for Allah, how can one commit shirk in love?

(4) This brings us to the fourth type of love.

The difference is very important and one that every Muslim should be familiar with, so as to not fall into the trap.

Loving for the sake of Allaah and loving something alongside Allaah are two very different concepts. It is our obligation as Muslims to make a very clear distinction between them.

Loving for the sake of Allaah is a sign of the perfection of faith, but loving something alongside Allaah is the essence of shirk. In today’s presentation, my focus will be on the latter; SHIRK IN LOVE.

Alhamdulillah, Allah has given our husbands, wives, children and families as a blessing to us, so that we may show thanks to Him.

It is our duty to provide and care for them, to show them love and mercy. However, when our love for these people begins to take us away from the remembrance of Allah and fulfilling our duty to Him, then we have indeed committed Shirk in love.

Loving Our Husbands

Today, it is not a big deal for a Muslim woman to be married to a so-called Muslim husband who doesn’t pray, and he knows it is an obligation he owns to Allah, but he chooses to reject this pillar of Islam thinking that the love he has for Allah in his heart is enough, and we know that failing to pray takes you out of the fold of Islam. But knowing this, she still stays married to him and if you ask her why, she’ll tell you, it’s because I love him.

Astagfirullah! Allah has clearly told us in the Holy Qur’aan in the Interpretation of the meaning:

“And give not (Muslim women) in marriage to idolaters until they believe” [Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:221]

“They (Muslim women) are not lawful for them (the disbelievers) nor are they (the disbelievers) lawful to them” [Surah Al- Mumtahinah, 60:10]

So how can we do this, when it has clearly been related to us not to marry anything but a Muslim man? This without doubt shows that our love for Allah comes secondary to our love for his creation. We need to have fear of Allah. Learn about His rights over us, learn about his beautiful names and attributes and worship Him like he deserves. “And amongst mankind are those who take [for worship] others besides Allah, as equals [with Allah]: They love them as they should love Allah. And those who believe love Allah more [than anything else]. If only the wrongdoers could see, behold, they would see the punishment” [Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:165]


Loving Our Wealth

Shirk in love not only includes loving our families more than Allah, but also our wealth. How many Muslim men today will close their businesses in order to go pray the congregational salaat or the Friday prayer, especially if the mosque is not even far? But no, they will fear that they might lose customers while they were always praying, worshiping Allah.

“He who became the slave of the Dinar or the Dirham will perish and be destroyed.” [Hadith Bukhari]

Brothers, this wealth that you have, is from no one but Allah; so why not give thanks and give Allah his rights: Take from your wealth and pay your zakaat and fear not any reduction in your wealth for Allah is the provider.

Allah tells us in the interpretation of the meaning, Allah tells us: “Men whom neither trade nor sale (business) diverts from the remembrance of Allaah” [Surah al-Noor, 24:37]

Do you not want to be one of these men, WHOM NEITHER TRADE OR SALE WILL EVER DIVERT FROM REMEMBERING THEIR LORD? Please reflect on this brothers.

Loving Our Children

For the sisters, Alhamdulillah, when Allah has blessed us with beautiful children. We can be so consumed in our daily chores, in feeding them, cleaning them, running after them all day every day, and before we know it, we’ve missed the Zuhr Salaat, we are so exhausted, that all we want to do is put our feet up before they wake up, and before we know it, its Asr salaat, and we are rushing to prepare the food before our husbands come home. We all sit together and eat NOT PRAYING EVEN ONE SALAAT…and what do we say at the back of our minds, I’ll make up for it at Isha.

Sisters, yes, it may be difficult, but when its time to give Allah His rights, our children must never come in the way of doing this. In fact, Allah told us in the interpretation of the meaning: “O you who believe! Let not your properties or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allaah” [Surah al-Munaafiqoon, 63:9].

Surely, our love for Allah should always come first!

Having said this, it does not in anyway mean that we cannot love them, or love beautiful things such as silver, gold, branded beautiful horses, cattle and well-tilled land, our businesses. We can love these things as long as we do not give preference over our love for Allah.

We don’t want to be like the Mushrikeen, who love their idols along side Allah. And this in itself is pure shirk.

We can only protect ourselves from falling into shirk by educating ourselves about Allah. For how can we love Him like He deserves unless we truly know Him.

Insha’Allah, I will leave you with this beautiful Hadith: Anas reported that the Prophet said, “There are three things which cause anyone who takes refuge in them to experience the sweetness of belief – that Allah and His Messenger are more beloved to him than anything else; that he loves a man only for Allah; and that he dislikes the thought of reverting to disbelief as much as he would dislike being cast into the Fire.” [Hadith Bukhari & Muslim].

Allahu Akbar! I will now hand you over to sister Qamar, who will go through with you yet another type of Shirk, Shirk IN FEAR.

Jazaak’Allahu khair and Asalaamu’alaykum


Jazaak’Allahu khair sister Fatima

Now that we are aware about shirk in love, let me tell you about shirk in fear.

Shirk in fear is when you associate partners with Allah in your fear, it is when a person fears someone or something more than they should fear Allah subhaanahu wa ta`ala.

This totally goes against Tawheed which is believing and worshipping Allah in His oneness, how can one think anyone besides Allah can bring them harm.

Having Taqwa (fear of Allah) is an obligation upon each and every Muslim. We must have the correct Fear of Allah in order to stay away from Shirk in Fear. Allah informs us of having fear of Him many times in the Qur’aan: As Allah says, in the interpretation of the meaning:

“…Fear not men, but fear me” [Surah Kafiroon, 5:44]

“O you who believe! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and die not except in a state of Islam.” [Surah Al-Imran, 3:102.]

“Those (i.e. believers) unto whom the people (hypocrites) said, “Verily, the people (pagans) have gathered against you (a great army), therefore, fear them.” But it (only) increased them in Faith, and they said: “Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs (for us).” So they returned with Grace and Bounty from Allah. No harm touched them; and they followed the good Pleasure of Allah. And Allah is the Owner of Great Bounty. It is only Shaitan (Satan) that suggests to you the fear of his Auliya (supporters and friends (polytheists, disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah and in His Messenger, Muhammad SAW)), so fear them not, but fear Me, if you are (true) believers.” [Surah Al-Imran, 3:173-175]

Here Allah is instructing us to fear Him alone, and that it is The Cursed Shaytan who tries to deceive us making us to fear the kufar, fearing what they will say when we fulfil our obligations to Allah, fearing they will harm us.

But the TRUE believer knows better than falling into Shaytans trap, because in reality Shaytan and his evil jinns are only as strong as you make them out to be and have no real power over those who are strong in their faith – the believer has fear of Allah alone, AS for the one who fails to do so they have fallen into Shirk in Fear.


I will now describe to you the 4 different types of fear:

(1) The first is “To fear other than Allah in that which only Allah can inflict upon you”.

This is to fear someone or something other than Allah thinking they can give you an illness, inflict poverty upon you, hurt or kill you etc. This falls under the category of major shirk because only Allah alone has the ability to do these things.

If Allah has decreed for something to harm you it will occur no matter what course of action you take, for the one who understands this they will live their lives fearing Allah alone knowing it is only Allah who is in control of our affairs.

Fearing men is a waste of time as they are human just like you and me, we must fear Allah the creator of the heavens and the earth and realise no harm can afflict any individual without the will of Allah, as our beloved Prophet Muhammad (sa) told us: Related by Abu Abbas Abdullah the son of Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both), who said: “One day I was behind the Messenger of Allah (sa) and he said to me:

‘Young man, I shall teach you some words [of advice]:
Be mindful of Allah, and Allah will protect you.
Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you.
If you ask, ask of Allah; if you seek help, seek help of Allah.
Know that if the Nation were to gather together to benefit you with anything, it would benefit you only with something that Allah had already prescribed for you, and if the Nation were to gather together to harm you with anything, they would harm you only with something Allah had already prescribed for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.'”

[Hadith at-Tirmidhi]

(2) Now the second type of fear is “To fear performing ones obligations to Allah”

This fear results in one either disobeying Allah or not obeying Him at all, these are people who have refused to practice their religion the way Allah has legislated due to the fear they have for others such as the kufar, instead of fearing their creator.

As Muslims we are commanded to enjoin the good and forbid the evil, those who do not fulfil this obligation to Allah due to being afraid of offers, they have committed shirk in fear, as they associated partners in their fear with Allah.

The two examples of this that we unfortunately see among the Muslims today are the Hijab and the beard.

Many Muslim women are walking around refusing to wear Hijab, because they are afraid of the kufar, they are afraid of the harm others will cause them if they did so, this fear is so much that they would rather disobey Allahs command, in fear that others will mock them or ridicule them – well this disobedience to Allah makes them guilty of shirk in fear.

How can she reject the Ayah of the Qur’aan where Allah commands, in the interpretation of the meaning: “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies. That will be better, that they should be known and not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful” [Surah al-Ahzaab, 33:59]

Those women who are not wearing Hijab, please ask yourself what is more important being worried about what the kufar will think about you? Or should you concern yourself more with what will Allah think of you?

What is more to fear: fearing Allahs creation or fearing the wrath of Allah?

As for that Muslim brother who continuously shaves off his beard due to being afraid that no organisation will give him a job or feels his Kafir colleagues will not accept him, again he is disobeying Allah subhaanahu wa ta`ala and falls guilty of Shirk Al-Akbar. Because instead of fearing Allah, he has chosen to fear others and the harm they would bring.

How can he reject the Hadith by our prophet Muhammad (sa) where he commands all Muslim men to “Trim the moustache and let the beard grow?” [Hadith Muslim]

These two people are so ignorant, if they would only pick up the Qur’aan and read the following Ayah, where Allah says in the interpretation of the meaning: “And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things.” [Surah At-Talaq, 65:2-4]


If they only feared Allah and fulfilled their obligations to Him – they would not worry or have any fear of anyone else besides Allah, and if they only put their trust in Allah they would see how Allah would protect them from harm and guide them.

But they did not, they did not fear Allah, they did not put their trust in him, and in turn they neglected their obligations, disobeying Allah – committing Shirk in Fear.

(3) The third type of fear is “To fear Allah and His punishment”

This type of fear is the kind of fear we all need to have because it is Allahs punishment alone we should fear and not anyone elses.

It is the fear of Allah and His punishment that keeps us in obedience to Him, having fear of Allahs punishment is what drives us to stay away from the haraam, it is the fear of Allah and having to stand before him on the day of judgment that makes us to fulfil our obligations and rights to all those we owe. However we need to keep a balance, we mustn’t go beyond the boundaries and become extreme by having so much fear of Allah that leads one to reject Allahs Mercy.

Allah says in the interpretation of the meaning: “Truly no one despairs of Allah’s Soothing Mercy, except those who have no faith.” [Surah Yusuf, 12:85]

This is not shirk, but will cause one’s faith to become unbalanced, as Muslims we need to keep an equal balance of our love for Allah, our fear of Allah and our hope in his mercy.

(4) The last type of fear is “Natural fear”

Natural fear is to fear things such as snakes, lions, spiders or if one is being oppressed to fear being tortured etc. To feel this fear is normal, again as long as one does not become extreme and start fearing that thing more than they should fear Allah.


One may ask, “yes I am guilty of shirk in fear, now how do I go about building up of my fear of Allah?”

Well Alhamdulillah Allah answers this question to us in the Qur’aan, where he says in the interpretation of the meaning:
“Say, ‘Are those who know equal to those who know not?’” [39:9].
“It is only those who have knowledge among His slaves that fear Allah.” [35:28]

So for the one who has committed shirk in fear, they need to first repent sincerely to Allah and be determined never go back to that sin again.

Now in order to stay safe from falling into shirk in fear, they need to seek knowledge of Islaam and educate themselves who their fear must be directed to and how to go about doing so.

To do this – you need to know who Allah is, His Names and Attributes, you need to read and ponder over the Qur’aan, read the punishments in store for those who turned away from Allahs signs, those people who Allah destroyed because of their disobedience.

You need to learn the Sunnah of our prophet Muhammad (sa); the situations he dealt with and how Allah protected him and his companions from the kufar because of their strong Taqwa.

When one does this, Insha’Allah they will no longer fear anything or anyone more than Allah, they will realise it was so foolish to fear others harming them to the extent that it drove them to disobey Allah.

We must all take the advice given to us by our prophet Muhammad (sa) where he said: “I have left behind me two things, if you cling to them you will never go astray. They are the Book of Allaah and my Sunnah”. [Hadith al-Haakim]

If we stick to these two sources, Insha’Allah we will never fall into shirk in fear.

So as we embark upon this journey through this world, the hereafter being our final destination we must supply the correct provisions, Allah has informed us of the best provision. He says, in the interpretation of the meaning:

“And take provision [with you] for the journey, but the best provision is Taqwa. So fear Me, O men of understanding.” [Surah Al-Baqarah 2: 197]


Alhamdulillah. We will now conclude our presentation by saying it is easy to say YES I FEAR ALLAH or YES I LOVE ALLAH, but it is one’s actions that affirm this believe, it is not simply uttering it by your tongue. If we want to be among the successful we must love Allah more than any of His creation, and we must have fear of him alone without associating partners with Him, to do otherwise we will result in error.

For those who have given their allegiance to Allah, they will have no problem in doing so.

Remember Allah is in no need of our love and is in no need of our fear; it is us who are in need to love and fear him, to gain his mercy. So we either love and fear him the way he deserves, or we don’t? The choice is ours.

We leave you with a beautiful ayah of the Qur’aan, where Allah says in the interpretation of the meaning: “…We ask thee not to provide sustenance: We provide it for thee. But the (fruit of) the Hereafter is for those who fear Allah.” [Surah Ta Ha, 20:132]


  1. Assalamu’alaikum.
    This is a good write up. May I add this to my facebook page and also inform of others on this matter as well. Jazakillahukhayr.

  2. Most brothers abandon obligation of jihad because they fear the enemy thinking enemy has power when in reality all power belongs to Allah

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